Why women have extramarital affairs?
Talk about a loaded theme that no one wants to speak about, this is it. Funny thing, extramarital affairs have been going on from the beginning of the world. Extramarital relationships can be filled with troubles, cause sorrow, and other harms. Also you must wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and openness matter, funds, age dissimilarity, spiritual upbringing, remorse, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this post I shall identify an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other persons, married dating.
Why do people have affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seek an extramarital affair. I am sure mainly though it is just the human state, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a few explanations I have run across.
Physically we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and fun, and sex makes us flee the real world for a small period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Somebody are able to switch the craving on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another person, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos the world has erected against extra-marital affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will defeat their worries and make them risk the wrath of not only their relatives, but the public too. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, possibly some of us are. Sex is awfully pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not wound your relatives or anyone else? You would need to minimize the risk you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the largest cluster, gigantic actually. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, but they feel comfortable in the way they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Also there are the kids to consider. Your savings are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay together besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them implementing the sex operation, at least not with their spouse. An marital affair sometimes solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage uharmed.
Neglect, sadly this is a frequent reason I fear. One or the other, frequently the gentleman is sexually neglecting his woman for a multitude of reasons. As a male I really am thankful to you guys neglecting your wives and making them obtainable to us guys of romance, making them “milf wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, maybe it is a lack of love, could be caring is vanished, maybe it is the intimacy, maybe neglect. Maybe we have just developed separately, our common concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is diverce of what you want. Could be I simply do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The first reason people give is, they seek the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for financial gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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